Zen speaks of turning away from attachment and desire. But not in the sense that most would assume. Although one of the four noble truths is “desire causes suffering”. I don’t think anyone will deny this…
I try very hard to live my life this way.
That is not to say that Zen is telling you “Do not love”, it simply means do not attach yourself to something with outcomes.
Let what is, simply just “Be”.
So many work to capture things or individuals and that is when conflict appears.
It is the expectations (although at times necessary in life) that one must let go of. However, this is not always an easy thing to do for we are programmed to desire, need and want.
If one gives for the pleasure of just giving or sharing without “expecting” anything in return then we are free to flow unfettered.
That which is clung to will soon only wish to escape.
Hence the only thing that one can cling to in this world is their own soul…
A quote that I feel speaks of this ~
“But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.”
~ Kahlil Gibran